Thursday, December 26, 2013

17 Weeks Pregnant! And The Hunt for the Perfect Diaper Ensues

We hit 17 weeks today!

The baby is 5 inches long and weighs about 5 ounces as well. His sweat glands are starting to develop.

Mom to be today spent a lot of time research diapers. Looks like she is placing an order through The Honest Company. Apparently it's a company started by Jessica Alba. Her line is all about organic and non-toxic material that is also good for the environment. All I can say is that is sounds expensive. It really do hope it's not. I will volunteer to wash those reusable diaper thingies if need be.

The wife's center of gravity is also changing given her now shifting of her organs to make room for the growing baby.

While her skin is visibly drier, her eyes will too even though they haven't yet.

This is also the time that she is expected to have vivid and memorable dreams. Mostly due to her heightened emotional state.

This time is also a good one to reflect on ones relationships to others and to the one we share with our significant others.

A friend shared a very powerful statement by Nietzsche today which resonates quite well with the state of relationships.

"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." 

Friedrich Nietzsche

Nobody ever said relationships or even marriage are easy. They are not. If they are, then someone is either not bringing their whole self or is limiting their authenticity in their ability to be vulnerable.

Love is definitely important. But friendship is so very much an important part of the equation.

Life is definitely a succession of events. That is why it is so important to realize that it is critical that we see how we not only live them but just as importantly how we react to them. I have learned that at times we need to choose our battles but also know when to just move on. Holding grudges or "keeping count" is just toxic. One must learn to see beyond it. But seeing beyond it doesn't mean ignoring it or the issues. Too many times I have seen relationships come crumbling down for this important aspect of communication or simply sharing ones feelings or how that situation made us feel. It's not and should NEVER be about who is right or who is wrong. Nor taking one side or the other. The premise should always be grounded on the principle of open and honest dialogue. Our ability to share how we feel is important. A lot of this when tension or friction arises can be smoother when you are a friend first and foremost with the one you share your life with. Love is a feeling. Friendship is a connection. Both can come together fulfilling you with an emotional connection that can conquer mountains.